When I group for dungeons on my alts, I pretend im a chick.
I am not at Snottydin's hights at all. I do not even *say* that I am a gurl in real life. I just play a female toon (on the characters in question) that is undergeared, plays well, and is very very non-masculine in their approach to everything group-wise.
It is a strange dynamic, where I would type and do the same things in both my overgeared Death Knight tank, my undergeared protadin and my female dwarf rogue. And the 3 things will be recieved very differently.
On the (male and overgeared) DK
Usually, my DKs words will be taken in one of two ways:
You are the tank, are the tank in gear, your word is law, sorry that I dared mention that you should have been in frost specc
- This, I might add, would be after me telling a dps off for not getting out of the stuff, or for pulling when I was in my dps talents. The other reaction was from when I did a run with a guildies alt. He got an [this achievement used to be hard, but now we outgear everything so we did it without trying] -achievement. Where I replied with an "grz nab".
Then all hell broke loose. The unguilded hunter went into a pent up-ive-have-enough-of-elitist-pricks-rage. Froth spewing out of every orifice he managed to spell out
Just because you are the tank and you have gear and this is easy for you, you should get of your high horse and effing effing [blank] a horse [blank] while wearing that hat inside [blank] [blank] [blank] on mother day.
Whereas both me and my guildie pointed out the similarities in our guild-tag, and everything and everyone calmed down. (I might add that I congratulated "all you nabs" after we successfully had cleared the place, to many /lol's).
On the (male and undergeared) Protadin
On my paladin, the world is a different place. A hostile place. A place filled with snickering bickering mean words and lots of "playing the blame game (much more than playing the dungeon-crawling game)" at my expense. Usually this is how things will play out
/p Hai everybody
/[random] is that your tanking gear?
/p Hai everybody
/[random] is that your tanking gear?
/[me] yes it is
/[random] I have more hp than you on my main, and he is a mage
/[me] 32k health is plenty for non-heroic Pit of Saron
/[random] we are going to wipe because of you, ill tank in my ret-gear and ret-talents
And then I am forced into a 15 minute wow-cock comparison contest, trying to explain to random male huge ego-no-gameplay-understanding that hp is not all that matters, threat, dmg reduction and being able to take hits counts too. (and I've never wiped on my paladin, when tanking. Ever. I still wipe people on my DK).
This is why I do not tank on my paladin. This is why there are such a huge lack of tanks. People cannot tell the difference between an apt geared/gemmed/echanted/specced tank and random moron dps with two items of tank gear and buckets of stam. There are so many loudmouthes that *prefer* the dps specced moron with loads of stam.
These are also people who will yet at the healer a lot.
On my lowgeared, dusty old Warlock [that is a hot looking chick]
/p hai everybody
/[everybody] hai, lets do this.
And then we do this. If there is any complication, or dickheads, I'll be the one going "calm down you two, and lets focus on the task at hand", or "dont yell at the healer, we are fine" "don't yell at the tank, if you did your job right, we would be fine" and even: "/w have you considered using defensive stance?".
And every single advice I give is ignored by the big boys. Even advice like "healing priest is OOM, mana break" or "could we please buff up before pulling that boss that wiped us before?".
Im the hot BE with luscous lips who are just so darn adorable when she pretends to know the game.
And on my Rogue female dwarf it is even worse. Because only chicks would play dwarf females (they *ARE* hot), and only UGLY women would play female dwarfs.
What? No, Calli never said anything about ugly women playing female dorfs. Calli is a good guy (who's main is a human female!!), who has unresolved issues about him being attracted to female dorfs.
True story: Everytime I log onto my rogue, calli logs off. And EVERY SINGLE TIME, I get a /w, two seconds later after he logs, from a female dwarf named "Mrslovesalot" telling me how she/he wishes I was a Dorf female IRL, and if I would pose for him/her for 1000g. Coincidence? I think not! (And I'm owed a lot of gold by now, btw).
Back on track
What I am getting at, is that I am in fact NOT pretending to be a chick, I am, however, being treated as one, and I very much prefer it over having the, "my dad could beat your dad", contests my male mains have to go through.
If I wanted to be taken seriously, I'll log onto my male main, and run a heroic or PuG voa. there, they frikking STFU and the /w I get there are more along the lines of:
/[OT] how do you make so much threat?
/[me, looking at the two rogues and 3 hunter from my guild MD'ing at me at every pull] "Its a little bit my gear, and a lot to do with talent my DK tanking friend."
So there are some things about MMO's being caught in 50 year old sexist issues, that I like, and that is when you can get them to play in your favour. But I do feel sorry for those players who are women on the other side of the screen, and play women, have the gear, and the talent, and the insight almost as much as we human beings do, and yet, are not being taken seriously.